Not every marriage is the same. What works for one might not work as well for another. It is a process that never ends. Something that needs to be constantly worked at until death do we part.
No marriage is perfect. Every couple has disagreements - arguments - and if someone tells you they never fight, well I would truly question their honesty in that. For noone is perfect, which is why no marriage is either.
A Happy Marriage is the Union of Two Good Forgivers! ~ Ruth Bell Graham
In those arguments and disagreements is where, and when, we truly get to know one another. What is going to work and what is not. Figuring out how to truly make each other happy. For your marriage is worth fighting for!
Now, I am not a marriage expert by any means and my marriage, like I mentioned, is not at all perfect, but I am willing and wanting to work at it all the days of my life. To have fun together - laughing and crying together through the good and the bad. My best friend by my side through it all. Taking notice of how important the littlest of things are. Like when I am laughing myself silly at a game of Scrabble {yes, we have that much fun playing Scrabble!} and I look over to see his eyes looking at me with an intensity and smile like he's seeing me and falling in love with me, for the first time. When he gives me a hug and a kiss goodbye before he leaves for work in the morning and calls me throughout the day just to see how we, the kids and I, are doing. Watching him love on our kids and having them see the way he loves me - teaching them how a man is supposed to treat his wife; his family! For me, these little things mean the world. They make me happier than any flower bouquet or expensive piece of jewelry! This is what I love about my marriage. The things that make it work. The things that make it stronger. The things that show me just how much I am truly loved by my husband. And I take notice of them, letting him know that they are appreciated acts of his love!
Marriage is becoming less sacred; less popular. Divorce is starting to take over. More people are getting divorced than are getting married. Noone is willing to work at it. Giving up and throwing in the towel when things get a little tough. But, God never promised or said it would be easy. But, I know this to be very true - if God is at the center of your marriage, your marriage will be good and fulfilling and will last until we reach eternity! For God also never designed for us to do it all on our own. Marriage, parenting, life! His plan was to be right there with us, leading us through.
"Unless the Lord builds the house, they labor in vain who build it" ~ Psalm 127:1
Invite God in. If you are in a rough spot right now, turn to Him and allow Him to work in your marriage. If you are happy in your marriage, invite God in. He loves spending time in your presence. He loves being a part of your marriage.
For where two or three come together in my name, there am I with them. ~ Matthew 18:20
I tell my husband all the time how I hope that he and I are that older couple walking hand in hand through the mall or park, just happy being in each others presence. I look forward to it, actually. To say we've been married 50 - 60 - years! And I am willing to work for it, pray for it, so we achieve that goal!
When I have learnt to love God better than my earthly dearest, I shall love my earthly dearest better than I do now. ~ C.S. Lewis
what a great post! i agree, marriage was designed by God because everything is better with your partner/best friend, life is definitely more enjoyable. and yes, every marriage has it's rough spots but is so much the better after working it out!
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ReplyDeleteLike you, whenever I hear someone say, "Oh, we never argue." I think one of two things:
1. That they are lying; or
2. That something is seriously wrong and they need to have a good argument!
(Iron, after all, sharpens iron.)
Loved this post! I love that you are passionate about marriage in general, and passionate about your own marriage, specifically.
Yes ma'am - I love that we fall more in love with each other every day. I never understood how you could do that, until I was married :)
ReplyDeleteLovely post! It's so easy to dwell on the difficulties, but it's so much better to fill your mind and dwell on all those special, just-for-us moments in your life. I love the thought that you're building a sacred history together--something that can never be copied or shared with anyone else!
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